Contrary to what you hear on the Internet, women aren’t really looking for men who are willing to shell out huge sums of money on a date. Sure, it’s nice to get treated now and again, but most young women realize that the men they date are trying to make ends meet too. That means that with a little creativity, you can really impress even if money isn’t a big part of the equation.
Find out about your date in advance.
- Ask mutual friends, if you can, to discover what kind of things interest her.
- Plan a date around that topic. If your date likes football, a college game is more fun than a professional game at a fraction of the price.
- Does your date like hiking? Pack a picnic and head out on a trail you researched in advance.
Consider seasonal activities for a first date.
- Taking a hayride to pick pumpkins or apples in the fall is great fun.
- Walking along flower-laden paths in spring is very romantic, and costs nothing.
- Heading to a beach for a walk or dip and wrapping up the day with a lobster roll from a local snack hut is relaxing and enjoyable.
Remember, creativity shows your fun side and implies you planned a bit.
If you really want to go out for a meal, opt for lunch, not dinner. Yes, your date will realize that lunch is less expensive, but she isn’t likely to care. First dates are supposed to be less emotionally charged, and lunch is more casual than dinner.
Look online and try to purchase a gift card at a discount for the restaurant you intend to use. Many gift cards are available at half price, saving you a significant amount. Just bring cash for tips.
The absolute worst date I had was actually a second date. The fellow invited me to join him for lunch at a restaurant of his choice. When we sat down, he asked if I minded that he used a coupon. Of course, I didn’t. We all need to save money. What I didn’t anticipate was him pulling out a “buy one entrée, get a second entrée free” coupon and then expecting me to pay for my meal and the tip. He handed me cash for his soda and left the table immediately. I was stunned! There was no third date.
Frugality is a great thing, and in this economy, we all need to tighten our belts. But think about how your date will perceive your actions. A coupon or gift certificate is fine and shows you are planning ahead. Insisting on sharing a bill after you invite someone is tacky. Leaving them to pay without any notice will pretty much guarantee you will never see them again.
Focus on Your Company
No matter what activity you choose, remember you are there to learn more about the individual with you. Don’t gripe about slow service, tap your fingers or discuss work problems. Ask questions, listen intently and don’t over share. If your date perceives that you are truly interested in her, she will be much more receptive to a second date.
Dating is an activity that is fraught with enough emotional nuances without getting caught up in finances. Planning ahead for a fun and inexpensive first date makes good sense and will certainly impress the girl.