We all have different money priorities and ideas of how money should be spent. When it comes to meshing your life with a partner though, these beliefs and priorities can get in the way of harmony.

I have a good relationship with my ex-husband right now, but looking back it is clear that there were some fundamental issues we didn’t agree on. And because we didn’t talk about it before we tied the knot, these differences came out later when we had to navigate our finances together. Some of the differences in spending priorities were so dramatic that it put very real strain on our relationship. It didn’t help that we were both completely blindsided by these differences either.

Learn from us. Before you get too far into planning a long-term life partnership with someone, it can help to play the “what if” game with a potential partner to get an idea of where you agree, and where you might need compromise.
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Promoting ourselves – tooting our own proverbial horn – is a practice we tend to view as selfish. But is it? Self-promotion (or self-marketing, as I prefer to call it) isn’t just the best way to make it to the top of the corporate ladder when it comes to succeeding in some career fields, but it is a necessary part of launching and growing a personal business, brand, or identity.

Some professionals feel the pressure to self-promote more than others – freelance writers and artists, solopreneurs, career coaches, contract workers, and agents just to name a few. If they don’t make themselves visible, no one else will and their careers will fail. Even though they’ve chosen these career fields, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re comfortable with the self-marketing that comes with it. What often happens is that they eventually realize that they need to learn to be highlighting their strengths much more if they want to succeed.

I’m one of those reluctant self-promoters… what about you?

I find it hard enough to ‘brag’ about myself on my resume, let alone in the queries, pitches and LOIs that come with freelancing. The “about me” paragraph always makes me feel uncomfortable, no matter how many times I’ve written one. Although I’m still learning, I’ve picked up a few survival tips of how shy, introverts like us can find our place between the uncomfortable edge of ‘this isn’t me’ and standing in the corner hoping someone will notice us. Without further ado, here are my top five self-marketing tips for shy people.
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At a national average of $729 a month for new cars and $528 a month for used, car payments can take a big chunk out of the monthly budget. Even if you avoid car loans, the high cost of a vehicle can delay other savings goals. Either way, it’s rewarding when a vehicle costs nothing more than fuel and routine maintenance. In fact, it’s such a rewarding feeling that you might miss important signs it’s time to start car shopping again.

Being frugal is a great quality when it comes to vehicle purchases – while the average consumer purchases a new one every 3 to 5 years, today’s vehicles are designed to last 10 or more. Still, it’s possible to be too frugal and end up costing yourself more money in the long run. If you have any doubts about whether it’s time to buy a newer vehicle, consider these four signs.

1. Your Vehicle’s Safety is Questionable

Aesthetic qualities and luxury features are one thing, but safety is quite another. If there’s any question whether your vehicle can get you safely from Point A to Point B, it’s time to consider an upgrade. Here are a few examples of what might constitute a safety concern:

  • Your vehicle sometimes has mobility problems. If this happens on the road, it could cause an accident.
  • Your vehicle lacks important safety features. Newer vehicles are equipped with advanced safety features, but we’re talking about the basics – seatbelts, curtain air bags, traction control, etc.
  • Your vehicle has been in an accident or has extensive rust that could compromise is structural integrity. The appearance of rust might not bother you, but the damage it does to internal parts could.

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Debt is one of the easiest traps to fall into and it can seem like it’s practically impossible to get out of. The formula to paying off debt is relatively simple; spend less than you earn. The reality isn’t easy to apply to your life though. After all, it’s difficult to create new habits and change your mindset about money.

I’ve been there. I’ve had many days of non-stop anxiety and sleepless nights because I worry whether I’ll have enough to cover my expenses. But I made it through the tough financial times and conquered my debt, so I know you can do the same. You just have to find out what’s really hindering your progress and most of the time, it’s usually a mental roadblock.

Success with money (or lack thereof) usually comes to down to one of these phrases.
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You’ll always find tons of people online sharing ways to be extreme couponers and save money at all costs. And while you may be tempted to try these methods, I’ve learned it doesn’t always pay to cut corners over the years even if you’re trying to save money

Look. I applaud your efforts and willingness to make sacrifices to keep more of your hard-earned cash in your pocket. It’s just that the effort could end up costing you more in the long run. Here are five times when being thrifty can backfire and cost you more money.
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I’m not much of a rules kinda guy, but the 30 day spending rule is one I really like. The rule is pretty simple – wait 30 days every time you want to make a purchase. Go buy the item if you still think it’s worth the cost after a month, but chances are good your desire to spend faded by then.

In recent memory, I have, at one point or another, wanted to buy the following:

  • New Pair of Jeans
  • The New iPhone When It Comes Out
  • Golf Clubs (2 Wedges To Be Exact)
  • Laptop
  • Study Course That’s More Hype than Anything Else

Luckily, none of these “toys” passed the 30-day test. Otherwise, I would have racked up even more debt and be busy regretting my decisions instead of telling you about my win.

Adding Some Spice to the Waiting Rule

Okay, that wasn’t crazy interesting. So many of us already know this rule. We either practice it already, or we’ve decided that it’s not worth the effort. Either way, we don’t need to read the rule again.
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