Nurturing, even when you wouldn’t have it any other way, can be tiring.
Sara is over two weeks old already, and I can’t believe how tired I am. I knew beforehand that there will be sleepless nights, but nothing prepares you like real world conditions. I actually just woke up, but I thought I had more energy when I went to bed. Everyone tells me that it gets better after 3 months, and hearing that makes me feel better. So today, let me repay the favor and tell you this:
Frugal living can be tiring sometimes, but it gets better and easier with time. At first, you need a conscious effort to save. Eventually though, decisions seem to become second nature and pretty soon, you will be scratching your head and wondering why other people need to spend the way they do. Emma and I always ask ourselves whether we are being a little too frugal (no doubt everyone’s comments about our lifestyle contribute to this), but our discussion always ends with “but we are happy being the way we are”. And… isn’t that the end goal? To be happy?
To be honest, we don’t even feel like we are sacrificing for a better tomorrow. Sure, the future is why we are frugal, as there is little reason to save otherwise, but there aren’t many reasons to spend either. We have everything we want and we are happy. We may want a nicer car, or perhaps a bigger house at times, but how does that make us happier? Everyone thinks I save because I care too much about money, but they are wrong.
There is no need. We don’t:
- feel deprived.
- need to prove to others.
- need more stuff.
Why do we need to spend?
Wealthy ones aside, many of our friends think that we are pretty well off. We live in a good neighborhood, we drive decent cars, and we don’t talk about having money troubles to our peers. What they don’t know is that we actually save quite a bit too. Yes, having good income, which we are fortunate to have, absolutely helps. More importantly though, our habits help us spend much less than what’s deemed normal.
Money comes from somewhere. You can either spend it on small things, or save it for something bigger.
- Our friends change their cars every couple years, while I am still driving my Acura I purchased when I came to the states. (Though to be completely honest, my two door sporty ride is becoming a less desirable option as my family grows in size.)
- Our friends have $100 cell phone bills, while ours cost half as much.
- Our friends keep the same insurance for years, while we keep calling (and getting) a lower rate every 6 months.
Everyone’s heard all these points before, and it doesn’t seem like much. Yet, we save a good amount AND we spend on what we like. Money doesn’t grow on trees, but there must be a hole in everyone else’s wallet.
Where is the sacrifice? I don’t see it. Frugality lets me live more. How can I be tired of that?
Like a new born, frugality will change your life, but in the best possible way.