Many of us try to avoid confrontations like a plague. Especially in the Chinese culture, we were taught not to challenge our teachers. We were told not to question authority and we learned never to question our boss.
Yesterday, I witnessed a reckless kid opening his SUV’s door and subsequently hitting my car’s side view mirror. Instead of doing the right thing and confronting the whole family about it, I walked away. I walked away thinking “This happens all the time and I wouldn’t see anything normally anyway. It’s fine. Let it go.”
I convinced myself that not facing the situation is correct. Well, I paid for it.
When I came back out, I noticed that the kid didn’t even snap the mirror back to the original position. Worst of all, there was a pretty big scratch on the back side. It’s amazing how the full car of people never said anything to me when they hit my car. It’s even more amazing that I thought it was okay to avoid confrontations.
I chose to walk away and I will live with the consequences. Don’t be like me because confrontations are apart of life. If you are right:
- Alert your boss of your views
- Tell the teacher that perhaps there’s another point to consider
- Explain to your parents why you did what you did.
Show respect but there’s no need to back down. Present your points or else it will be you that pays the price.