The 4 Sources of Clutter and How to Kick Them Out of Your Life

by Ashley Eneriz · 10 comments

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Last week, I wrote on the four financial benefits that one could gain from decluttering their homes. It is amazing the power that clutter can have over our finances and mental health. Why not just throw it all away or donate it?

That’s where things get tricky.

Many times our clutter is not easy to deal with because they come with baggage. The clutter in our lives is like a bad relationship we just can’t shake off. Here are four types of clutter and some suggestions with how to prevent it from draining your life.

1. Acquired Stuff

Whether it is hand-me-downs from a well-meaning friend or your grandmother’s leftover estate, one way clutter makes its way into our homes is via other people. Even nice gifts from others can eventually become a serious problem of clutter.

These required items do not truly feel like our stuff, which makes it harder for us to part with. There is a guilt about getting rid of something that someone gave us or that is left over from someone’s life. Here are two questions to ask yourself when you are faced with the dilemma:

  • Will the giver even know it’s gone? If no, then get rid of it. If yes, then have a talk with them. Let them know how much you appreciate x but that it doesn’t fit with your tastes/needs. Prepare yourself because there is a chance of hurt feelings. Make sure the person understands that you are in no way rejecting them and that you value them and their time. For the gift giver that keeps giving, encourage them to spend time with you or your family instead, emphasizing that you would much rather have an hour of their time than a gift.
  • How else can you preserve someone’s life? It can be overwhelming when a family member’s death leaves you with a lot of stuff. Keep something small to remember them and choose to hang on to memories not stuff. You are in no way throwing away your loved one or their meaningful life. You are instead making room in your own life so that you can enjoy the memory of them instead of being weighed down by their stuff.

My own mother passed away suddenly two years ago, and just going in her closet was overwhelming. All of the clothes brought up vivid memories of her and I could still smell her perfume in a few pieces. My first instinct was to preserve her, keep her smell, look, and touch all locked up in one place. It just wouldn’t have been healthy for me to do that – physical or mentally, though. Instead, I kept a few small pieces of jewelry of hers that always remind me of her.

2. Stuff You Spent A Lot of Money On

It can be hard to get rid of items you spent a lot of money on. For example, if you spent $1,500 for a treadmill that you never used, it might make you feel better to keep it.

Don’t let the guilt of how much something cost keep you chained to an item. Simply say to yourself, “I regret wasting money on this, but now I am going to move on and make wiser choices.”

3. Emotional Stuff

No parent wants their kids to grow up, but it happens and hanging on to all of their baby and kid stuff will not make your older child little again. Choose to keep a few specific and special things and get rid of the rest. Yes, you might need to drop off your donation and run to the nearest Starbucks to drink your sorrow away, but the exercise will be worth it. Instead, write down memories of your children and arrange their pictures into books. Your kids will love to have your memories as keepsakes rather than a yellowing baby dress they can’t remember wearing.

4. Useful Stuff

Another category of clutter is the “useful stuff.” This is all the stuff that is useful and can possibly be used one day. Why throw away something perfectly good?

I used to coupon several years ago and was able to get a lot of toiletries for free. I arranged them nicely under the sink and even moved them twice when we moved. The funny thing was that after several years, my stockpile was barely going down. I just didn’t use that much shampoo and toothpaste to make having 20 of each logical. It was hard for me to let go of these items because they were useful. When I finally sold them in a yard sale, I felt better not having so much stuff under my sink.

How long have you had a certain item? If 12 months have gone by and you haven’t used it yet, then the item is simply not useful to you. Try selling it or donating it instead.

Clutter comes to us for many reasons, but usually we hang on to it for only one reason – guilt. Release yourself from the guilt of having to keep certain items and free yourself from the chains clutter can have on your life.

Why do you struggle with getting rid of clutter?

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Paul June 23, 2016 at 10:07 am

How about taking pictures of sentimental items that you need to get rid of? Save the digital picture on the cloud so that you can access it whenever and wherever you want, but they take up absolutely no physical space.

I will at some point go towards a more paperless office. I have a home office. So, taking all my paperwork and digitizing them will help to reduce clutter in my home as well.

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terdralyn June 23, 2016 at 11:12 am

I never thought about taking pictures of anything other than the drawings. Great idea to take pics of other items.

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David Ning June 26, 2016 at 4:26 pm

I’ve always wanted to digitalized all the receipts I get, but I never get around to doing it. 2017 is the year I will do it and by 2020, I’ll be totally paper free!

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terdralyn June 26, 2016 at 6:07 pm

I’m always afraid if I do this I’ll need an actual, physical (no scanned copy) receipt. I bought a small, handheld scanner to do it, but this fear gets the best of me. Don’t you worry about that? If you ever did, how did you get over it?

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David Ning June 26, 2016 at 7:05 pm

I’ve never worried about this. I remember reading somewhere that a photocopy is okay, which means I can just print out a scanned copy.

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terdralyn June 27, 2016 at 7:12 am

I imagine they would be valid. With everything done online anyway, I don’t see how a business could say no. I guess after I finish my messy basement, I’d better tackle this paper jungle.

terdralyn June 23, 2016 at 9:18 am

My main problem is that I’m a sentimental fool. At one time I had my walls covered in pictures three of my grandsons had drawn, some on really big paper (from a roll). As much as I loved it, I realized I loved clean walls more, so I took close-up pictures of everything on the walls, saved a couple that had special meaning to the child, and tossed the rest. I’ve also had a problem with my adult children moving in and out. Every single time one of them moves in, they move my stuff, stacking and packing it away. I’ve decided that unless it’s an emergency, my children can take care of themselves. I have yet to totally clean the mess they’ve left, but I’m working on it.

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Ashley Eneriz June 25, 2016 at 8:45 pm

Good job for tackling it!

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terdralyn June 26, 2016 at 6:31 am

Thanks! I need all the encouragement I can get with this mess!

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David Ning June 27, 2016 at 5:48 pm

Have a good time organizing!!

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